How to Avoid a Dysfunctional Family ChristmasWould you consider your family Christmas celebration to be a recipe for dysfunctional behavior? Do you look at your holiday family gatherings and wonder why they seem nothing like those depicted on postcards? Maybe your family Christmas get-togethers and parties are exactly like those in the movies, the ones where arguments and misunderstandings take over a holiday that's supposed to be about peace and love. Or perhaps your dysfunctional family Christmas celebration is even worse than that. Well this year, it doesn't have to be. Your holiday can be beautiful and merry, if you just take the following steps as carefully as possible.
Do Your Best With the Family This YearAs you approach certain aspects of Christmas like picking gifts and choosing what to make for the family potluck, try to do your best and nothing more. Don't worry about who might say what, concerning the present you gave them. Let go of any concern over whether or not your dish will be the hit of the party. Make the effort you feel is appropriate for cooking, gift buying, dressing for a party, etc. and remember to be true to your good nature. What anyone else thinks shouldn't trouble you in the slightest.
During the Holidays, Agree to DisagreeChristmas can seem like a dysfunctional holiday because there are way too many â€œcooks in the kitchen,â€ so to speak. There will always be a lot of opinions on different topics of conversation when a lot of (related) people get together for a holiday like Christmas.
As you gather with your family, though, speak your mind as you wish and allow others to speak theirs in turn. As long as everyone is being respectful towards each other, it might be best to sit through conversations that seem ridiculous or offers of unsolicited advice. If you feel you've had enough, you can always take the high road and remove yourself to the television.